Coffee and Compassion

I was not a coffee person until I became a mother of two. Caffeine to kickstart a tired me at work. These days I appreciated coffee and yesterday I was at Henri Charpentier, Orchard Central. Resembled a pop-up cafe, the cakes are delicious as they look. A little expensive though. Jessie had Americano while I sipped cappuccino and we shared a slice of chocolate cake.

The lady was sharing her thoughts about being grateful and compassion.

She touched on the topic of being in a position where someone says something that hurts our feelings with or without the intention to provoke us versus our choices to react to that someone. I like this topic as I reminded myself to be gracious and be freed from unhappiness.

Of late, I have ventured into new career experiences and all that … led to a shift in my passion that I used to have for the past 10 years. In time, robots will replace many jobs including my current career.

It’s going to be exciting, I welcome revolution if for the better.


Happy 7th Birthday, Leia

Today my little girl turns 7 years old. I told myself and people that the happiest moment in my life was having to be in the same room with Leia and Bret right after I delivered her. I experienced motherhood for the first time, realising the moment I have always wanted since my early 20s and finally fulfilling the curiosity of meeting my own child. Till today, I can still picture us in the maternity ward together. At that time, it was all so surreal. And all the precious little details in that hour, I will never want to forget.

Thank you God for blessing us with a girl. Leia likes to drawing. From time to time, she draws cards to express how much she loves & misses us. We have been touched by her thoughtfulness and times when she challenged us with mischief, Bret & I learn to be more creative with parenting as well as patience. Everyday working towards becoming a better person so as to lead by example. 

To Leia:

Many times when you are sleeping mummy kissed your forehead whispering, “Thank you Leia for coming into our life.” I love you and I know you love me mummy daddy didi as much as we do. Both you and didi mean the world to me. 

My devotion for God grew stronger than ever when I was pregnant with you making an unconditional promise to myself making sure you will be safe. When mummy and daddy are not by your side, I pray for the angels to protect you always.
This year entering primary 1 is a steep road for us, we have reached the last quarter and getting better. We make sure you get to play hard as much as studying hard.

Mummy wish you will be healthy and may your days ahead be filled with fun adventures.

Happy birthday, Love you always and forever.

Updates: August 2017

It is 10pm, Sunday and I am blogging with my newly bought Lofree keyboard. The typewriter feel and sound inspires the writer to express better. Using Bluetooth, it is connected to my ipad. I have issues connecting it to my apple phone and MacBook Air. Went YouTube to look for solutions, not as successful so meanwhile, I will just stick to ipad. The lofree keyboard was in my gadget wish list for a couple of months. Did consider dropping the idea of getting it because of its price but I couldn’t resist when I saw a reasonable price I am willing to pay.

So where did I get it from? The answer: Carousell (a popularaddictive online marketplace for locals)

(Picture taken from Bored Panda)

For several months, I have been using Dayre to journal my daily life. It is convenient however I figured wordpress shall be a place where I can write longer post. Some updates about my life as a working mummy of two…

1. Getting Active

In the month of August, I started a proven weight loss program called TR90 from Nuskin. Gotten an intelligent weighing scale to know my metabolism rate, body age, visceral fat and body fat content too. It’s been 8 days and through the scale, I could see how my body reacts towards different activities and diet. So far, my metabolism rate is increasing because of the supplements and I noticed my body is not as bloated as before. Hubby was kinda amused when he saw some inches off my body, “Keep it up!”

In the TR90 program, I received a Nuskin Body Trimmer, exercise band and have been using it everyday to kickstart a regular exercise regime. Looked up YouTube videos to train myself. Being a working mummy, time is really tight and I just have to look for YouTube exercise video to start a 20minutes fat-burning session in the comfort of my room..and right after that, I can shower, then hug my little ones. Kryston and Leia, being kids love it when I give them my attention or just being around their radius. To be exact, its a vice versa feeling.

So besides the necessary vitamins to supplement a new green & less-meat diet, I have a fitness tracker device from Fitbit, to make sure I am walking more everyday. The device is then synced to AIA Vitality Program to earn points and get weekly challenge rewards. There is this additional punch of motivation and the satisfied feeling of achieving the target and get rewarded for adopting a healthy lifestyle.

At 30s, we grow up learning …”The greatest wealth is health.”

2. Leia’s Primary School Routine

This year, my little girl faced a brand new learning environment and education system. Together, we have to manage her weekly spelling tests, occasionally show and tell as well as school assessments tests. Many times, I wished I am a full-time mum where I can guide her in the afternoon everyday. This afternoon, I went through her assessments and considered if I should get her into student care. The reason I hesitated is that her primary school does not have a student care within the premise. We had a mother-daughter talk about student care. Leia did not like the idea and I showed her how to learn on her own. Looks positive. Hopefully, that works.

The level of stress as today’s Singaporean parent towards kid’s academic is beyond what I had imagined. Clearly, I was not prepared as I wanted my child to enjoy learning more than getting good grades.

3. Kryston, my boy

Being a boy mum was something I didn’t expect. Although I knew Bret have always hoped for a boy somehow, maybe he is traditional or looking forward to playing soccer with his own son. Yet in my case, I kinda knew girls always yearned to have a sister. So I wasn’t expecting a boy. Either girl or boy are god-sent miracle to me. This evening, Leia asked me earlier, “Can I have another sibling?” The thought of #3.. Bret is not as keen, his answer ‘I don’t’ mind…” I am concerned about the space at home and … the agony of having to go through the stressful local academic system where going to school is often not enough. Tuition is needed etc. It is not just about the financial part, but I dread the idea having family quality time on weekends replaced by enrichment classes even if it’s only a few hours. To me, I value the essence of family quality time as doing simple, fun or new activities together. Making family time a beautiful memory that stays forever. And many times, weekends are short.

ok.. I side tracked.. back to Junior Khoo. He took his first few steps at 13 months old but feared falling down. It was until, towards the end of 14 months old, he realized he is able to take on more steps without falling down. One evening he began to practice walking on his own with a particular starting and ending point. The moment he fell, he crawled back to starting point and practiced again. He had a system and displayed determination. With applause and cheers, he gained the confidence to walk on his own. Now that he has learned to walk, we are busier having to watch the curious toddler.

At home, he is the noisiest… followed by Leia. He is able to address his family members “Papa, Mama, Ah Ma and teh-teh(jiejie” We heard him saying “Birds, Ba(Bus), Ball, There, Done” In this weekend, he blabbers constantly trying to express himself in a foreign language. Mimicking adults, Kryston is showing more hand gestures as he “talks”. So that concludes my expressive boy. As of now, he loves the sight of Leia dearly and identifies her as someone fun. He follows her around and laughs whenever she does something silly for him. If Leia gets scolding and cries, his eyes turn red welling up with tears. Emphatic little man.

So far, Kryston milestones were on track except feeding. My helper and his grandmothers spoon fed him all the time. So used to being fed, he is reluctant to feed himself. When I tried guiding him, he rejected the idea. I am trying to intervene because I was able to train Leia to feed herself at 10 months old. But this time, it is tough as I have to work during his lunch time. Till he is ready…

4. Parenting with Hubby

We have ample of time together as a married couple. Sometimes, it is quite hard to believe we are married for almost 8 years…On weekdays we would meet up with friends and weekends reserved for kids. Whenever he sees our kids, he just grins widely opening his arms to hug them. Something I am thankful for, he is a hands-on father who trims their nails, plays different games with Leia and teaches her school work. He dotes on both but I think in time he may not have the time to guide Kryston like he does with Leia. Not that he doesn’t want to, just my prediction.

Next week, we will be traveling without our kids. Gonna miss them so much. The thing about traveling as parents.

Alright, it’s late now… gotta turn in. Goodnight.

August me

A month ago, I noticed my face was so round I need to do something. By chance, I found a therapist who does lymphatic massage & she highlighted that my facial jaw was lower and it does happens as we age. So with her magic fingers, she helped me to achieve a contour, slimmer face.

For daily maintenance, I went on to purchase Refa for Body to work on the water retention on my face & baby. It's very easy to use and absorbs solar light to emit microcurrent for firming & blood circulation.

The right photo angle and beautifying app gave me an pretty v-shape face.

Somehow, I like this picture 🙂

First visit to Tampines Library at Hub

Saturday, both Bret and I woke up late. By the time we were ready, it was 2pm and making our way to lunch. Tummies filled with sushi, we decided to pop by the re-opened library near our Neighbourhood.

The crowd was manageable and we made our way to the children's book section at level 4.

In order to build Leia's vocabulary and interest in writing, I try to introduce books appropriate for her age.

Leia likes the new Library and asked to find a seat so she can read her book. Bret was babywearing Kryston so wasn't the ideal time.

When we strolled to the Chinese section, she discovered a Disney princess book. There's hanyu pinyin so she can read the book on her own.

The Baby Pictures Books are located at Level 3, an indoor playground coming too. I picked up 3 books for my 14 months old.

Altogether we borrowed 11 books for Leia & Kryston. The books are all new books and the kids have started to read them at home.

For my boy, it was more of flipping and playing with the interactive books.

Looking forward to our next trip to the library again.

Boufe Cafe

Sometime ago, a friend of mine posted a galaxy-inspired cake. So beautiful, I added the cafe into my To-Go List.

It was a Monday. My friends had no idea where I am leading them. Upon arrival, they were wowed by the cakes.

Before cakes, we had the drinks & main course for lunch. Iced Tea – Twillight (Purple drink) is a popular drink.

However, the lavender was bit too raw & overwhelming for me.

The cakes were pretty and mini in real. We didn't finish them despite there were 4 of us.

Best order in terms of taste, Nutellalatte.

Cool Mint Viennetta 

Being working mum, I just want to dash back home to my kids after work. Me-time or spa time is pretty much history or have come become rare to me. Used to do regular groceries shopping with Bret until I tried Red Mart. I appreciated the convenience of clicking and have my groceries delivered to home. Goodbye to days where I have to carry the heavy duty items like rice, milk powder or detergents & etc

Last afternoon, my Red Mart order was delivered. One of the item, Viennetta Ice Cream. 

The Color of the box goes so well with Le Creuset Cool Mint stoneware. I will always remember the commercial I watched when I was a kid. Through the commercial, I learnt the concept of luxury. Successful commercial. 

Beautiful curls… Bret loves peppermint and our first time trying. Minty and Super cool. 

Yummy dessert.