Its a very subjective topic.
To define a good wife in general can be very subjective still.
I suppose the definition is perceived uniquely for every individual. A guy once told me, men are likely to marry someone who resembles their mother. at then, my natural response was… Huh? And as I think deeper and observed enough. I was convinced about the possibility.
Ask the men about good wife and I get different answers but … Can Cook is a common skill they hope their wife will have. In the past, its like a Must-Have for wives. But evolution changes men & women. In today’s men & women working society, I find more
professional men gaining great sense of pride in the way their wife plans & executes… as well as the wives’ careers.
Haven’t you heard of some men pretty proudly sharing, “Oh my wife earns a lot! She’s the Manager of blah blah… from Big Company” I experienced this a lot from my guy friends who fly high in their career. These men earn lots and they prefer women who earn just as much or even higher! Just as, you find people of your grade or higher. Smart people way of living?
Come to my definition of good wife, I used to look forward cooking for my own family. Unfortunately, no matter how I try… my husband beats me in this area. Since secondary school days, I can score badly for home econs yet 100 for techinical.Yet, Mr Khoo never finds that a problem. About me cooking..He worried I mess up the kitchen, scared I hurt myself and find that its bothersome for me. And when I cook or bake, he kinda blush as he eats cos he knows for a cook like me, I need a lot more effort to do a dish well. I truly appreciate his sweetest thoughts all these years.
I asked myself, “How many men think like him?” To me, he shines totally by being so caring & thoughtful husband.
Though I don’t cook well, I have my strengths to complement him – My brain works better when comes to research & planning ahead for our big future, electronic gadgets and sometimes navigations on the road.
He feels I’m not a better cook than him maybe because I’m lazy to think or practise.. I too feel his brain refuse to crack hard about planning ahead, how to research and etc. Or maybe we are just naturally weak in those areas. And opposite attracts. Ok.. we only found out about our “weakness” after years of dating together and found that our similarities & differences fits well to how we like our daily life to be.
And its this everyday thing that leads us to come back for each other, settle down and today, we have Khoo Leia.
Back to my friend’s saying about marrying someone like mother, descibed well for Mr Khoo. My mil and I do have much in common. She doesn’t really cook and Mr Khoo told me, he has only tried his mum’s claypot rice & instant noodle..nothing else. I was like omg… but …. mil gave and still giving him many things not just in material, where most mothers don’t. She’s definitely omeone I truly respect much. Good and close friends of mine will know what I mean 🙂
And to conclude my subject: The best wife in my opinon, is someone who can make her husband a better person and complements him well in life. Most importantly, stand by him through good and bad times and.. death till us apart.