Few months back, I was in Parkway’s restroom. There’s this chinese little gal probably about 4 years.. trying to reach the tap. Without hesitation, I smiled to her and turned on the tap for her. After washing her hands, she just walked away as though I wasn’t there. Her mother saw that I helped and merely asked her to go.
Immediately, an unpleasant feeling overwhelmed me. I told myself in that instant, “I must make sure my children learn to say Thank you!”
Decided to blog about the above incident as I read Today’s Parents Magazine, Show A Little Kindness where The Singapore Kindness Movement Council shares about Cultivating a More Gracious, Kinder Society.
“A Rude Child Reflects Badly on Her Parents.” – Yes, its this statement that ignited my urge to blog.
In my much younger days, I got real uncomfortable or angry with people who behave badly such as making nasty & insensitive comments, take advantage of another or myself, simply hold no respect others & other negative actions. My instant response will either be a rude-ignore or shoot back!
And as I grow up, interaction with more people allows me to kinda conclude that a person’s behaviour is strongly influenced by upbringing and social environment. So now instead of trying to retaliate with sarcastic remarks when someone upset or irritates me, I try to understand. Try to search for a good reason. Maybe the person had a bad day..maybe the person is just insensitive.
Surely I could just labelled them as weird or simply terrible people but sometimes, it could be something I’ve done or said that led them to behave in that manner. They being nasty is something I can’t interfere, whereas I can help myself to improve cos I want to miminse similar encounter. Still, if… hits my boiling point, I turn to my angels for some “therapy sessions”.
Children mimicks adults behaviour especially Parents. I am trying my best to shape myself into a better citizen as I want my children to have a Gift that’s gonna stay with them. Gifts – Good Morales & Values. Its not easy cos I’m not perfect but I try.
I told Mrs Ho if she ever sees me spoiling my kids in future, gotta remind me!
Anyway, the idea of the Gift comes from several self-improvement books where I learnt: Happiness comes from within.
I truly believe in “You give what you get” – Be positive about life & people. Yes there’s ugly sides of everything but if you can’t do anything to improve, save the comments & look on the bright side. “Be thankful for what you have” – If you think your life, relationship, work is terrible, you need to know there’s people out there who suffered more.
Shaping a Good Citizen by Nanz-Chong in Today’s Parent,
“I have come to conclude that to raise a positive and giving child, we must start with raising a grateful child, not a child who complains of lack, not a child envious of others, not one who sees a problem as a bigger problem(than it really is), but one who is thankful for the resources he has, one who appreciates the ups and downs of life”